Is the port for ARC set to 36629? If so, the local device is listening on all IP addresses (0000:0000:0000:0000:0000:0000:0000:0000:36629, but there is no connection. Likely on 0.0.0.0:36629, too.
Just because you disable IPv6 on the interfaces does not prevent an application from opening a socket.
it’s set to 35529
I have set /etc/sysctl.conf
….
net.ipv6.conf.all.disable_ipv6 = 1
net.ipv6.conf.default.disable_ipv6 = 1
net.ipv6.conf.lo.disable_ipv6 = 1
and rebooted, now roon uses ip4 and netstat -tulpn | grep 35529 shows
tcp 0 0 0.0.0.0:35529 0.0.0.0:* LISTEN 1003/RoonAppliance