There is a long standing issue with Intel graphics drivers and OpenGL which causes exactly the symptoms you are describing. Especially the alternating behaviour you describe with windows updates.
The solution is to install 32bit roon on your remotes if they are using certain intel 3500 and 4500 series graphics chips. I have exactly this problem and that solved it. This has worked for many others.
It is also possible to run a 64bit core and a 32bit remote on the same machine. But that will only be necessary if your library is above 110k plus tracks or so. You will know this will be necessary because you will see a lot of library corruptions in the roon logs which may be interpreted wrongly as failing hardware.