According to your error message, i think IPV6 is enabled on your router. Roon Arc doesn’t support IPV6 yet. Could you please disable it on your router and try again?
Post a screenshot of your port forward rule on the UDM, should look something like this:
Make sure the port being fwd’d matches the port set on the Roon core for Arc (and if the core is windows you have a firewall rule to allow that port incoming)
I found the hard way that modifying the default network can lead to some very weird things happening in UI with routing, port forwarding, traffic rules or devices going offline and failing to re-adopt etc.
I reset my UDM SE and left the default network alone and then created 3x new networks for home, work and lab. It’s been (fairly) glitch free since.